Need or Want!!??

Yes, what we want badly, so badly that we are ready to sacrifice anything for it is not always what we need.  And what’s really good for us is not what we always want…This is an old lesson which I learned, but which I forget often…

This is not just for me, but for all of us…There is always a difference between a need and want…If I am getting it right, need is something without which life cannot go any further and want is something which is auxiliary that can make life better by its presence but not certainly THE best… Also, a need is something without which you cannot live…but a want is something which can always be compensated or let go or replaced…

There are some things which leave an impression in our heart, mind and soul; this impression creates an illusion which makes us think that we are really in need of that SOMETHING. But stop right there, it’s an impression or a pleasant memory. Because, it has affected us so much we feel we NEED it, but sit back and think if it’s a really a need or a want…You can always get anything you want, but what really matters is how badly you need it…

As Paul Coelho says in The Alchemist,

“When you want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you achieve it”

And I would say,

“When you need something badly, the whole universe conspires in helping you achieve it”

Personally, I feel this is the difference between a need and a want. If you have anything more to add on or change in this, do comment

 

Matter of choice or chance??

I have always felt this, most of the times, life just was a matter of chance for me…Some times for good and some times for bad !!!

One such good example was, I never wanted to set my foot into Java programming. I don’t know for what so reasons…I never liked it as a language…But, when my first job forced me to be a java programmer, I started loving Java like anything. It has become my passion in other words

That was one good example of life was a matter of chance…similarly, there are lot of bad examples too. However, as humans we just prefer good ones {natural human tendency}…

I liked one of the quotes from spider man -3,

” Whatever comes our way, whatever battle we have raging inside us, we always have a choice. My friend Harry taught me that. He chose to be the best of himself. It’s the choices that make us who we are, and we can always choose to do what’s right.”

First read these lines in one of my friends blog, but when I saw it in the movie, I really liked it. I felt each and every word in it is true…We always have a choice, whatever is the situation!!! Its which choice we prefer to choose that decides the what we will be or what we are or what we were

Forget about situations where you don’t have a choice, but for most of them we do have

 

கண்கள்

நினைக்காத பொழுதில்,
சற்றும் எதிர்பார்கதா காலை வேலையில்,
ரசாயண காற்றின் சுவாசத்தில்,
நண்பனுக்காய் காத்திருந்த வேலையில்,
மாநகர பேருந்தில் சந்தித்த உன் கண்காள்,
ஒரு அழகான அதிர்ச்சி!!

நினைவலையில் ஓயாத சந்திப்பு,
என்றோ உன்னிடம் தொலைந்த நான்,
இன்றும் மறுபடி தொலைந்தைன் உன்னில்,
தொலைவதும் சுகம் என்று புரியவைத்த நுதன திருட்டு!!

 

The small hero who impressed me…

Last weekend….

It was around half past ten in the morning, when I was back from my french classes. I was on the bike with usual, unusual thoughts in my head and a slight head ache. The thoughts in my head was because of my work and skill up gradation plans. The head ache was due to the newly painted class room where I go for learning french. It was mixed kind of feeling, but it is very usual to me.

I was blocked by the red light near the lakshman shruthi signal, I was cursing the traffic lights for increasing the magnitude of my hunger by just increasing the time for my reaching home, that too just very few kilometers from my home. It was at this point, I saw the young guy who impressed me a lot….

He was a small guy, should be little less than 10 years of age. But, the job he was doing was a job of a talented person. I would never push myself into that job because it involved, lot of talking, convincing, canvassing and selling your product. Yes!! you guessed it right, he was selling…he was a young sales person. He was not selling computers or mobiles or laptops or not a highly worthy thing, he was selling ear buds - a thin plastic straw which has cotton rolled on both the ends, which we use for cleaning our ears.

He should have been one of the usual boy who was born in a poor family, who had heart and will to learn…but no bread to fill his stomach. He should have been forced to sell ear buds to earn his living. It was tough job, I agree…The probability of people buying ear buds was so less, out of the little more than thousand vehicles(inclusive of four wheelers and two wheelers) in the signal, not even one of them braught the ear buds, though it costed just 10 bucks.Ten bucks, is not a huge amount, when compared to what we spend on unneccasary expenses.

Despite of all this short comings, I liked the attitude of this small guy. He would go near each and every vehicle…And give a broad million dollar smile  to his customers and ask,

“Buds vangikongaa anna/akka, verum pathu ruba dhaan….”

Some of them would be polite with him and say a gentle NO…and some of them would be harsh on him and shove him off…

But however his customers reacted, he still maintained his winning attitude and his mesmerizing million dollar smile…I was astonished to see this…What an hero he was?? Heroes, are not the persons who bear all the pain, kill/hit hundred people and save the heroines in movies…nor they are persons who have extra-ordinary powers nor they are persons who are like our fake politicians…The real hero, in fact the first hero I met in real life was this small kid….

He had no money, no education, not sure if he would have his next meal…probably even no shelter and nothing to fulfill his basic needs…but still he had the good will, winning attitude, ever lasting hope, patience, understanding and the hunger to achieve…and lot more good things

Without hesitation, I brought a packet of ear buds from my small hero and wished him good luck with a broad smile back…I saw his eyes glittering and bubbling with energy…I thought every week I should buy buds from him, if or not I use it

But, the majority of the population in India have all our basic necessities fulfilled, but we never have the attitude that this guy has…But still, we are sad, we are not contended…we run behind material wealth…At last we forget we are humans… why?? Can’t we change for good?? If we cannot be heroes, can we at least be good humans??

I thought I will meet my hero this week also…but, he was missing in his office place, open air office rather…I thought may be he changed his office location or rather shifted from his current job…however, I admire him a lot…hope I will get a chance to meet him again…

 

Smileys…or Lifeys…

Common term everyone would have heard, or yahoo terminology would be emoticons…

These small icons or graphic images map our real emotions to a computer based emotions…Some emoticons are real cute, they express more than what humans do in reality.

One question I had always had when using them is, Are we heading towards a virtual world where we often have imaginary character of our-self.Like, Mr.Anderson and Neo in the “The Matrix”…The emerging social networking sites are incorporating features to even map our physical and mental self into an virtual image. Though it has some good, it has weighted bad too, psychologically we are tend to be under a self pressure…What all we are unable to do in reality will be capable in virtual world…so the human mind just tends to stay in the virtual world where there no failures, no sadness, no defeats and no negativity. This eventually leads to addiction which eventually eats our own mental self.Then we would turn mere living cells feeding our expressivity, our thoughts and our emotions to our virtual image and end up no where…

Well, that was not the real thing I wanted to convey, that’s one thing that’s greatly occurring these days.

Now back to the subject of discussion…

In our real life, we forget that we are humans born to live a happy life and enjoy life. We often just get behind some or the other thing, would have started with studies…then work…then skill set development…then onsite…then again a study or family…and it goes on and on…If we ever give a thought to us, “Man!! stop !! if you go on running behind something when would you live your life??”…The instant answer we would give is, “After achieving…so and so..so and so…” and the list keeps growing…By the time we reach the end of it, we would have already finished meaningful part of our life

So the answer eventually is - Live your life while you grow and while you are in your achievement or growth phase…Don’t forget the key purpose of life and don’t just concentrate in the surrounding factors…

I felt this occurring commonly in me, one common comment I receive from my colleagues is, I always have a tensed face or probably an serious face…I don’t really know how it got a fit inside me…A little observation to my facial reactions proved they were right. I analyzed and did find out that, I forget to smile or keep a smiling face…this is naturally because every-time my mind/brain seems to be preoccupied with something..even if its a lightweight brain thread or a heavyweight brain process it just keeps consuming answers to what next? what next? what next? what next? and goes working on it…

I think its time, I shut it down and do something else to get it back to normal…stop taking things seriously…make work as just work…concentrate a bit of self development…concentrate a bit on enjoying the beauty of life and nature…Overhauling time for my brain machine

Some-other things which I am going to try are,
- When I walk, when I eat, when I breath, when I sleep or whatever I do…I am going to auto suggest myself to stop thinking too much and just concentrate on whatever I am doing in the present.
- No parallel processing and no concurrent processing. Going to be in single threaded model for some time.
- Take good time to sleep, to eat healthy food(of-course fat free) and read as much as “out of subject” books.
- Try and smile whenever possible…whether its necessary or unnecessary.
- Stop frowning
- Finally, LIVE MY LIFE
So guys and girls…its your turn now…Do whatever get out of it !!! Its not really good out there

If you have tackled these kind of situation better, please do let us know.

 

Rose is a rose is a rose is rose rose….

The title does sound funny…its a starting line of a bollywood film song

It was around 7:00 AM in the morning, I was as usual cuddled in my bed. My mom, jolted me and I slowly opened my voice. In an excited voice she told me that few roses have blossomed in our garden in a rose plant she had planted few days back.

I am not a guy who is interested in gardening and it did not make any sense to me about the roses. So I just slept back again.

W hen I went to the terrace to get something is when my eyes fell on the newly blossomed rose. I was feeling it was something special. Though our garden was not so spacious and there were lot of plants, the rose did catch my eyes with all its beauty. It was as though, the only shining smiling flower around in a whole population of serious people around.

Its true !! In our daily life where people are so concerned and serious about their life n work…there are only few people who take time for others. Who make others smile…Who take time to enjoy life and who take time to be positive and spread positiveness around… They are just like these roses which catch everyone’s eyes

How would you feel if you had a garden full of roses??

Have a look at the pictures of one of the roses,

 

Bol na halke halke…

Just happend to view this song from one of my friend’s favorite vidoes in Orkut. Started loving it…Thought I would write an article on love, but its not to be told…It has to be felt.Have you felt love….post a comment about it…Would be helpful

Movie : Jhoom Barabar Jhoom - 2007
Music Director : Shankar Eshaan & Loy
Singer(s) :Rahat Fateh Ali Khan & Mahalaxmi Iyer
Lyricists :Gulzar

 

Is life always in infinite loops??

Is life in infinite loops always?? I mean, do we do the same old things day by day?? Atleast, most of us do… Wake up…do the routines…work…sleep…eat…

It was today morning it striked me, I am not getting life to the fullest. I am wasting a lot of time into the ways I should reach my goal rather than the goal itself. These are energy drainers

Sometimes we are so hooked up with things we tend to see what takes us to the goal right from what we are…Just step back…and look at the whole picture…This is where we understand we are bound so much to what we do rather than why we do…

In other words, only when we break our normal life…burn the self-desire each day in us…atleast spend an hour in a day for figuring out how to reach our goals…and keep track of it we could reach our destiny.

There are lot of concentration diverters and energy drainers around. Watch out for them !!! Stick around to your goals

 

Awarapan in my thoughts…

Last week, I saw Awarapan.

The movie is all about the life of a gangster named Shivam. The first few moments of the movie, he is shown as a loyal gangster working for his boss Malik. Malik, also treats Shivam not only as just one more gunda in his gang but rather treats him with special care and has a personal liking for him. He takes care of Shivam more than his own son.

Shivam in his past life before working for Malik, falls in love with a girl. The girl is very pious to god unlike Shivam who is an atheist. But, Shivam unfortunately loses this girl in an accident. The accident happens such that, the girl’s father sees them talking to each other and denies the girl’s hands to Shivam since he is a gunda. Shivam promises that he will live a proper life if her father promises to give his daughter’s hand to him, and he hands over his personally possesed revolver to him. Her father, gets angry on his behavior and shoots Shivam, while Shivam moves away, the bullet hits his love and she dies. Her father also shoots himself and commits suicide.

Shivam, unable to come out of her thoughts lives his life in loneliness. He also, never forgets his love’s belief that freeing few bound souls is equivalent to service to god.

He in course of work with Malik, comes across a girl whom Malik himself was in love with. Malik wants Shivam to spy that girl. Shivam, feels this girl is kind of similar to her own girl friend. But she is in love with a guy of his own country(Pakisthan) but not with Malik. Since he is loyal to Malik, he tells this to his boss and his boss wants him to kill her.

When he is about to kill her and her boy friend, due to his thoughts of freeing bound souls as said by his girl friend he spares them. This act of Shivam, makes Malik turn against Shivam.

The rest of the story is how Shivam helps the guy and girl to get free from Malik. In the course of time, during this process, due to certain sequence of activities in his life he starts believing in existence of God. Finally, succeeds in freeing the two souls from Malik and dies himself in course of action.

I guess you like my review or just story telling Will make it better next time. It may not be well written due to time constraints

 

Movie reviews…

I thought its a good idea to add movie reviews or just my own thoughts on the movie and how it affected me my blog. Perhaps, even though we watch movies for entertainment, they leave us in our own trail of thoughts. I am not sure, if its true for everyone else but certainly true for me.

Stay tuned !!!